A sound relationship with Shakti

Unfortunately, like other such male-dominated cultures, the Hindu society does not see women as equal to men and gives them a lower social status, sometimes even a cruel and condescending one.

This had a noticeable effect on the way practitioners handle their own female side, the Anima as Carel Joung called it, and since it is that side which comes in contact with the goddesses and has a strong effect on the practitioner's psyche. The conscious and subconscious faculties may impede the formation of a strong bond with a chosen goddess.

In practice, Kali and other strong, independent goddesses, such as Lilith and Na'ama, are not pleased with this situation, as it creates friction.

The example of Hindu society is, of course, only one of the many societies that still hold this kind of approach, and, until not long ago, women in Western society also had to struggle to secure their social status.

Amongst the goddesses of the nightside, especially Lilith, who is known in her mythology to have rejected Adam as her first husband because he wanted to take the upper or dominant position and submit her to his will.

Shakti, the feminine cosmic force, is frequently portrayed as an all-powerful deity with many faces, and several goddesses are associated with her. She is chaotic, volatile, and hard to stabilize and manipulate.

Shakti is erotic, sensual, powerful, and possessive, and here it is important to note that the attribute of personal relation the practitioner assigns to her plays a substantial role. 

She is referred to as Shakti Kundalini, understood as the personal energy rising from the base of the spine that permeates the practitioner's energy body, endowing it with supernatural abilities.

Eventually, the aim of the tantric practitioner is to bring one's inner shakti into alignment with the cosmic force. It is like connecting a house that relies on a generator for its power grid to the electric company, which is, in itself, a very risky project, as an unprepared nervous system might be damaged in the process. 

In this regard, it is important to note that forming a close, deep, and trusting relationship with the personification of Shakti of one's choice is the most secure approach to working with both the personal and cosmic forces.

It is like downloading and installing an app that regulates the flow of Kundalini, guides you through the process of assimilating and regulating your nervous system, and provides an interface and link to the rising energy.

That is also the secure way to connect the personal app, which is a thoughtform or localized image and link to the goddess in your own mind, to the goddess spirit whose extent is far greater than yours.

In Draconian sorcery, Lilith and Na’ama, as well as Hecate, are some of the possible personal goddesses that help to kindle and regulate the black flame, which is a different magical thechnology then shakti kundalini and works through different faculties, although in some traditions and schools PranaYama and Kundalini work are an integral part of the system.

The Ardhanarishvara, also known as the "Lord Who Is Half Woman," is a trans version of the Hindu deity Shiva. This deity represents the principle of unification between the male and female forces of the psyche and is often depicted as a man who is half-woman, fully embodying Shakti. They are an old sect of sadhus within the Hindu Left-Hand Path (LHP) who follow this deity and practice a powerful form of Tantra. They are notorious, and even my guru at the Haridwar Kumbh Mela paid tribute to them for protection, as we smoked the Chillum together.

Mother, sister, lover, wife...etc. Each relationship that personifies the Goddess for the practitioner has a distinct and profound effect on the practitioner. For example, like with any woman, unconditional surrender of power, giving, and total worship by a male practitioner will undoubtedly end in castration, as much as with any mundane relationship with an independent and strong dominative woman. Seeking out self-empowerment and, at the same time, subjugating your will and masculinity to Lilith is counterproductive as she values strong indipoendent man who are not afraid of the dark.

I consider myself a successful postfeminist man who internalized gender equality principles without flushing my masculinity down the drain. Lilith and Na'amah stand for gender equality and appreciate a strong man who values themself as much as they respect femininity. Standing for your right to be treated as an equal partner can be very productive. However, some practitioners choose to relate to them as mothers and adopt the role of children to be nurtured.

It works, but only with certain goddesses who are more inclined to nurturing.

 As a rule of thumb, as much as you strive for unification with shakti, you must strive to become Shiva, the nonpersonal male principle of divine energy and all-pervading consciousness.

Or in the draconian magic, the bearer of the black flame infused with empowerment.

Similarly, in Draconian magic, you are to become an empowered, autonomous man who can assume responsibility for your own life and reality.